Sometimes I wonder if I will ever find the person I am destined to be with.

It seems like I can never truly find the right person. And I often ask myself how much longer it is going to take for me to finally find the person who does not have major flaws or problems.

People tell me all the time I need to quit worrying about when I find the right one. They tell me I have plenty of time.

Maybe I do, but at the same time I am going to be 30 in eight years, and what if I want to have children, a marriage and a career by then?

I know I have written before about how people should not worry about finding love and how it happens when you least expect it. I am sure that has been the case for most people, but it has not been for me.

I have had plenty of relationships before. The thing is, they all start wonderful at the beginning.

You start a relationship in the “talking stage” and then you have that feeling of puppy love.

Everything feels absolutely wonderful and you think that the person you are with is wonderful.

Fast forward to a few weeks or to a few months later, and everything changes.

You realize how the person really is. You see their flaws. I know everyone has flaws, believe me, I do. I have flaws myself, but sometimes a person’s flaws are way too much for a relationship.

Maybe I am just being picky and not letting fate have control in who I end up with.

I have always felt I wanted a certain type of person to be with. I have never felt I was too picky, but I do have standards.

I have to constantly remind myself that hopefully one of these days, I will find the right person I am destined to be with. I guess until that time, I need to focus on more important things and let God have control over my destiny.

Someday, I hope we all find someone to make us happy and someone to love.

Andrew Paisley is a junior journalism major. He can be reached at 581-2812 or at abpaisley@eiu.edu.