Deep within the pit of our stomach is that feeling of our “gut instinct” that nudges at us when we have to make a difficult decision.

Weighing the options usually consists of putting that heavy gut feeling or instinct down while you try to juggle lighter and better options of comfort.

We usually go through these options because we want to appease others’ feelings at the expense of our own.

For example, some of my friends do not want to send “risky” text messages to someone because it will expose their vulnerability and it is hard to express feelings.

This also might be because the “risk” could include rejection, but sometimes you just have to take a chance, run toward the cliff, jump and get hurt sooner rather than later.

The sooner you put on the bandage, the sooner you will be able to rip it off for that last sensation of pain.

Your skin will have a newly healed armor that gets you ready for the next text, and this time you will be shielded from potential harm.

But sometimes, being up front and honest does not have to end with a painful cliff dive. Instead, it can end in flying, because being  at that point led to an understanding or mutual feeling.

We fear the cliff because we fear the pain, even if it shapes us and helps us grow. Instead of looking at it like a hazard, we should look at it like an obstacle to get through.

Rather than being afraid of making mistakes or being wrong, we should embrace the chance to learn something new and to take the constructive criticism.

People might call me an enabler for telling them to send the text message, to be petty or to “overshare” their feelings, but I think everyone should be an ally for themselves.

We do not always need validation from someone else before we do something; sometimes we are just right the first time in our decision-making.

Usually our gut is looking out for us, and even if our choices lead to rejection, the worst thing someone can tell you is no and that is OK. There are other options.

Even though I believe in “enabling” within reason, I still think people should make decisions constructively and safely. Do not actually jump off of a cliff to achieve personal growth. You will probably just break a few bones.

Although sharing your personal truth can be uncomfortable and fill the room with a thick tension, it is better to get it out than to hold it in.

Abbey Whittington is a junior journalism major and can be reached at 581-2812 or anwhittington@eiu.edu.